Two weeks ago on “The Bachelor: On the Wings of Love”, five women remained with only four roses to hand out. It was inevitable; one of the ladies was going home brokenhearted. Unfortunately and fortunately it was Cory. It was unfortunate because she got her heart broken. It was fortunate because she preserved her virginity for what will hopefully be the right man for her.
I am assuming that Cory is still a virgin because of her religious beliefs. I commend her form making this commitment, and not compromising her convictions during the show. When asked by Jake, “Would you live with someone during engagement?” Cory answered without hesitation, “No, I believe that is reserved for marriage.” She is absolutely right.
Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” God only approves of sex between a husband and a wife in a marriage covenant.
In fact, it is wrong to even stir up the emotions of another without a wholehearted commitment to that person. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 says, “It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 6and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. 7For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 8Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.”
Intimacy with another person without commitment is fraud!
I am not a big fan of the show format of the Bachelor. In fact, I hate it. I think it is the worst possible way to find your spouse. No man trying to find true love should be so intimate and physical with multiple women at the same time. Show after show this format leads to confusion and heartbreak.
It also facilitates an environment where the couple builds faulty foundations in their relationship. Instead of building on friendship, trust, purity and honor, they build on deceit, mistrust, impurity and dishonor. And, they do it in the name of love. Love is patient and love never takes advantage of another person’s emotions to try to figure out if they are the right one.
Wipe your tears dry Cory and be thankful you got sent home. God has a man waiting for you who will love you and honor you for making the right choice to wait for him. Don’t ever think for a minute that you should have to compromise your convictions to find love. Any man worth having you by his side will commit to you before he tells you he loves you, and he will wait to kiss you on your wedding day.
Trust me Cory; it will be worth the wait!
3 comments:
I was reading your blog and wondered about my relationship with my boyfriend. He and I are both Christians, but did something very wrong...we had sex before marriage. Is our relationship doomed and not even worth fixing since we made this huge mistake? Yes, we have repented and realized what we did was wrong and are trying to do better and what is right. Should we break up?
You need to ask and answer a few questions. Do you know that God has put you two together? Do you know this is the person you are suppose to marry? If so, proceed forward learning from this incident and make a commitment to honor God in your relationship. If not, it would be wise to break up. I commend you for recognizing your wrongs and repenting. It is vital that you glorify God in your relationship. I am praying that God would give you wisdom on how to proceed forward. Thanks for making contact. God bless!
I commend the young woman in your first comment for asking the hard questions about her obedience, and her walk with the Lord. It truly shows a committed and open heart to actually want to hear from God, even if it isn't what you might not want to hear! Taking that next step of obedience and possibly ending her relationship is heartbreaking to consider, but on the other side of our obedience is an amazing new relationship with our Lord that we won't regret. I'm praying for her and for all the other women out there who have the same questions. Great answer, Pastor Ron. The direction your answer gave went straight to the Father.
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